when someone took you for granted

I will never understand why, when a human knows something is always beside them no matter what, they tend to take it for granted.

Regrettably, I'm not talking about "items." Items like when we take our phone for granted, pushing it to the limit by using it all the time until it overheats. And, of course, you don't feel sorry for your phone because you think it's normal to treat it that way, you know your phone will cool down and go back to normal, and you can use it again. But the most important reason why you don't feel sorry for your phone is because you know it will be fine at the end of the day and you know that it doesn't have feelings.

Then why do people often fail to appreciate others, just as they sometimes fail to appreciate material possessions? Why do humans take others for granted after they know we will tolerate them, we will understand them, and we will forgive them eventually? 

Have you ever pondered this as well? Sometimes we take our parents for granted because we know they will always be on our side, always cherish us, and so on, that we forget to show appreciation for their presence by simply calling them every day and checking if they've eaten breakfast. This not only works for the daughter-parent relationship but also for other relationships as well. By that means, everyone. 

But thanks to my overthinking mind, I've managed to pinpoint some potential reasons why people tend to take others for granted, even so I still don't understand and won’t justify any of you who take others for granted but, let’s break it down together for learning purposes.

1. Familiarity : yes again, I will demonstrate it like when you first get a new phone. You’re cautious and attentive. But once you become familiar with it, you start to take it for granted. Quite similar when you meet someone, you may initially appreciate them at first, but as you get used to their presence, you might overlook their importance as you are also familiar that this person will tolerate you again and again even after you made many mistakes before.
2. Comfort : When you feel safe or comfortable with someone, you tend to assume that they will always be there for you. As I mentioned previously, this kind of mindset might make you less appreciative of them. 
3. Stress and distraction : Realise it or not, but another reason is could be because you were too caught up in your own world. Your work, your goals, and papers. It distracted you and disconnected you from your beloved ones Making you overlook their importance because you just think of your importance at the moment. People realise the importance of somebody or something in their lives when it is lost to them.
4. Expectations: When someone knows you have so much love to give, people often take them for granted. Once they witness the extent of your love for them, they will begin to expect  more and more from you without self-consciousness that the action should be mutual and need appreciation as well.

Yes, those pretty much it.. do you agree or do not agree? I'm up for further discussions/disagreements (through blogs comments/direct message which i think i will be MIA) and please note down to always applying the respectfully disagree attitude yah :D 

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